Dear Sal,

I am the mother of twin girls who are like night and day. They were friends and got along well until they reached Middle School. Now they can’t be in the same room without a fight breaking out. Honestly, I don’t like coming home from work at night for fear of the discord that I have to deal with. What do you suggest? These girls are ruining our once happy home.

Gemini Mom

Dear Gemini Mom,

There is never the easy teenage girl, and Middle School is the beginning of what can sometimes be an unpredictable ride. They are transitioning, finding who they are, and sometimes this highly hormonal time transcends hostility. I am assuming that because the girls were once close, they are directing their anger into where they consider a safe zone. Also, are your daughters always referred to as the twins? Perhaps it is time to look at and treat them as totally independent emerging young teens. Separate them in your mind, acknowledge each ones talents and interest. This will aid in their desire to grow as individuals, above all remind them that they will one day find comfort in being together.

Good Luck!

Sal

Dear Sal,

We were going to tell my parents, and drop the bomb, that my boyfriend and I are pregnant. When we sat down to talk to them, my father started lecturing us about respecting their premises and “whatever you do, don’t get pregnant!” We chickened out and didn’t tell him. After that, my boyfriend emailed my dad, and told him electronically. Is this too weird, or what should we do?

Dropping the Bomb

Dear Dropping the Bomb,

Electronically emailing news such as this is unusual, but maybe a new way of the times. But, go back and try again! You need to talk to your family. Communication is very important. Counseling is also important. Stay calm at all costs. Get the emotional support from both families. You should not be alone with this. Take this all slow and easy, but make sure to take care of your health and see a doctor. This is a big life’s decision, take your time and think things through. Good luck!

Sal