Dear Sal,

My best friend is so excited about becoming pregnant after trying for quite sometime. The problem is her husband.  I was out with friends after work when we stopped into a well known local bar. While enjoying the music, I looked over and there was Mr. Daddy, with another woman!  I excused myself and slipped out hoping that we would not make eye contact.
Sal, I am so worried, my girlfriend doesn’t know anything about his extra activities, and I don’t want to hurt her, especially while she is pregnant, however, I just can’t get over his cheating on her!   What shall I do? Should I tell her or let this sleeping dog lie?

Yours truly,
Itch’in to tell

Dear Itch’in to tell,

This is a tough one. Is there any chance that your friend may already know about Mr. Daddy’s sideline adventures?  If you decide to tell her, tread lightly and open the conversation with an ambiguous question as to whether she would want to know if her husband was not being monogamous?  If she says no, that is the end of the conversation for good.  Many times history has proven the anger of such situations is projected on the messenger. That is where the term don’t shoot the messenger arrived. 

Sal

Dear Sal,

I recently got out of rehab for my addiction to METH. I am back home now surrounded by family and friends. The problem I am having is that my friends and some of my family have drug addictions. I am really struggling with urges to join them. It is all around me. What should I do?

Struggling

Dear Struggling,

            Don’t give in! You have come a long way, and you can do it! You need to remove yourself for your sake from your surroundings. Explain to your family and friends that you love them, but do not want to join them any longer in a destructive life style. Make healthy choices for yourself. Join a health club, get a new hobby, go to church, make new friends—just do something positive and stay focused. Continue going to drug counseling and look for positive reinforcement. You have already made a great change in your life. Keep up the good work!

Sal