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Dear Sal

I am a woman in my 40’s and after twenty years of marriage, I find myself back in the dating pool. The worst of it is I don’t know the rules and the rules have all changed since I have dated. I met a man that I found very interesting and felt there was a connection. However, he did not call the next day. I have two concert tickets to a great show that I know he would enjoy from our conversation. Sal, do I call him and ask him if he wants to go to the concert or wait until he calls?

Sincerely, Phone in Hand

Dear Phone in Hand,

Put the phone down. Wait until the man calls you. Through the ages, men have been the pursuers. It’s an act of nature. If he calls, certainly ask him to the concert. If he doesn’t, call a good friend that you know you will have a good time with, and go and enjoy your concert..

Dear Sal,

I have worked for this man and his company for three years, and I have never been called by my name. I’m expected to be at work 15 minutes early, work over-time, and this is not reflected in my paycheck. I’m not alone, along with all the other women in the office; we are all treated in the same manner. He is angry, impatient, and anything can set him off. I don’t think I can take the yelling and the put-downs any longer. I really need this job. I have two kids, and I am a single parent. What should I do?

Sincerely, Nameless

Dear Nameless,

There is no excuse for employer abuse, and you don’t have to take this any longer. It is always easier to find a job if you already have one. Start looking! You can create an opportunity from diversity. Don’t let yourself get stuck in a bad situation. Know you’re valuable, and there is a much better working place that you will be appreciated. So, lift your spirits, set your sights high, and type a new resume. Good luck!

Disclaimer—This is an advice column, and the opinions of Sal are the voice of experience. Sal provides an insightful and caring view to her readers. We offer this column in the spirit of gathering around a kitchen table and sharing our problems. If you would like to share your dilemma with Sal, please write to dearsal@womenspeakonline.org