Dear Sal,
I don’t know if I am overreacting or not but, a friend of mine that I work with asked me to go a concert. I agreed and bought a very expensive ticket to attend this with her. At the day before the concert, she asks me if I can meet up and join her there. I told her I would rather go together as it is a big place, and I didn’t want to be searching for her, and the parking is limited and rather stressful when you are maneuvering a large SUV. She told me another friend was going with her that had night blindness and that it would be better to just meet up with her. I suddenly felt pretty second rate. She told me she would call me back. I waited and waited. Should I still try to go to the concert, sell the ticket, or should I stay and try not to feel so hurt?
Feeling 2nd Rate
Dear Feeling 2nd Rate,
I understand how you would feel hurt. You thought you would be sharing a special time with your friend, and instead you are feeling like you are trying to be included. Your friend may not be trying to hurt you intentionally, but it still hurts, doesn’t it? If you could afford to buy the ticket, you can afford to give it away. Give it to a deserving family member, friend, or neighbor. I would tell your friend that you will meet with her another time when you can go together to share a happy experience. Relate that you felt uncomfortable going at night to meet up with her with the potential of missing each other. Be honest with your feelings. If she is a true friend, she will understand, and you will not face this issue again. Good luck!
Sal
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