Advice – January 2012

Dear Sal,
I am devastated and feel like a fool. I got married six months ago to what I thought was a wonderful man. We were so in love! Recently, he delivered me the news that he can’t be married anymore because he misses his kids that live in North Carolina, and he needs to move back there. If that wasn’t bad enough… Well, that turned out to be a lie. Apparently, he has been cheating on me since we got married and has a girlfriend that he is going to move in with in Tennessee. I have two young boys, and we are in shock. I am broken-hearted. How do I move on or ever trust another man again?
Torn Up

Dear Torn Up,
What a jerk! If you haven’t already done so, contact a lawyer immediately and get this marriage annulled. If his name is on anything with yours, get it off. There is no quick emotional fix for this. It will take time to heal emotionally. My advice to you is to handle yourself with kid gloves. Spend time with friends, go to church, exercise is good for stress, get your nails done, buy some new clothes, take bubble baths, in other words—be good to you. Counseling is very beneficial and will help you to do deal with anger. Don’t date. Spend time with your boys and try to do fun things together. They are confused and hurt as well. They will help keep you grounded. Hang in there! In time, this will be a bad memory, and you will find happiness again.
Sal

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